A Lot to Do with Nothing Essay

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A Lot to Do with Nothing

"Can parenting or child rearing be non-punitive?" Is one of the most common questions that parents
ask. If spanking is so effective, why do most people have such an uneasy feeling about it? Some how we
cannot silence our inner doubts about the long term effects of physical punishment. We are a little
embarrassed by the use of force and we keep saying to ourselves, ""here ought to be a better way of rearing
children." Another reason is, within ourselves, no one wants to be hit.
While hitting releases anger and frustration, and might work in the short-term, what parents really
want is for children to be self controlled and disciplined. If long term goals are not addressed, bad behavior
will return as soon as the person doing the punishing leaves. Non punitive actions can create well behaved,
independent, socially developed children.
Physical punishment is not a constructive method of discipline. It tells the child that you are
displeased with what they have done, but it doesn't tell them how to behave in a way that will be more
satisfactory.
According to Professor Murray A. Straus "Physical punishment unfortunately is the foundation on
which the edifice of family violence rests." He also states that, "Physical punishment is the way most people
first experience violence and it establishes the emotional context of association love with violence." The
child learns early that those who love him or her are also those who hit.
Since physical punishment has been used as a method to train children or to teach them about
dangerous things to be avoided, it also establishes the moral rightness of hitting other family members. A
further unintended consequence of spanking is the lesson that, when something is really important it justifies
the use of physical force.
Lets think for a minute. Haven't you heard this statement many times, and it has been proven.
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