EQ vs IQ Essay

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EQ vs IQ

EQ Versus IQ
You are four years old and are seated by yourself at the kitchen table. Your mom places
one piece of your favorite candy in front of you. She explains that you can eat it right
now, but if you wait while she leaves the room to do a quick chore, you can have two
pieces of candy when she returns. She leaves the room. What do you do? Do you grab the
gooey goody the minute she’s out the door? Or do you patiently sit there resisting
temptation hoping to double your treat upon her return? Do you know that your our
reaction to this situation may very well determine the degree of your success in life? A
similar study with children was actually conducted by a psychologist using marshmallows.
The study showed that children who had the ability to restrain themselves and reap the
reward of a second treat generally grew up to be better adjusted, more popular,
adventurous, confident and dependable teenagers. The children who gave in to temptation
early on were more likely to be lonely, easily frustrated, stubborn, and less likely to
properly handle stress. While most people tend to think a high IQ, or intelligence
quotient, determines the course of one’s life, new brain research suggests that one’s
emotional quotient, or EQ, may be the true measure of human intelligence.

Unlike IQ, which is gauged by the famous Stanford-Binet tests, EQ is not measurable in the
same way. A person’s IQ reveals the cold, factual side of the brain, whereas the EQ
refers to one’s “people skills.” Emotional intelligence is a complex quality consisting
of such things as self-awareness, empathy, persistence and social skills. Some aspects of
emotional intelligence, however, can be determined. Optimism, for example, is a good
indicator of a person’s self-worth. According to Martin Seligman, a University of
Pennsylvania psychologist, how people respond to setbacks--optimistically or
pessimistically--is a fairly accurate indicator of how well they will succeed in school,
in sports, and in certain kinds of work. His theory is proven by 1988 Olympic Gold
Medallist Matt Biondi. Before the Olympic Games, this U.S. swimmer was favored to win
seven Golds. His first two races proved to be disappointing and commentators thought
Biondi would be unable to recover from this setback. Seligman disagreed. He had given
some members of the U.S. swim team a version of his optimism test before the races; it
showed that Biondi had an extremely positive attitude. Instead of becoming discouraged,
as others might have, Biondi bounced right back by swimming even faster, winning five gold
medals in the next five races.

When one thinks of brilliant people, Einstein and other such high achievers come to mind.
One assumes that they were “wired” for greatness from birth. But then, one might wonder
why, over time, natural talent seems to explode in some people yet fizzle out in others.
This is where the marshmallows come in. Could your decision be determined by an IQ test?
No. It seems that the ability to delay gratification is a master skill, a triumph of the
intellectual brain over the impulsive one. It is a sign of emotional intelligence but it
does not show up on an IQ test. Nancy Gibbs in her article “The EQ Factor” for Time
Magazine states:

For most of this century, scientists have worshipped the hardware of the brain and
the software of the mind; the messy powers of the heart were left to the poets.
But cognitive theory could simply not explain the questions we wonder about
most: why some people just seem to have a gift for living well; why the
smartest kid in the class will probably not end up the richest; why we like
some people virtually on sight and distrust others; why some people remain
buoyant in the face of troubles that would sink a less resilient soul. What qualities
of the mind or spirit, in short, determine who succeeds?
The phrase “emotional intelligence” was created by a Yale psychologist and a professor at
University of New Hampshire five years ago to describe qualities like understanding one’s
own feelings, empathy for the feelings of others and “the regulation of emotion in a way
that enhances living.” Their idea is becoming a topic of conversation nationally due to a
book by Daniel Goleman called Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. He
states that his goal is to redefine intelligence and success. He believes that EQ is the
equivalent to what we used to call “character” and contributes more to a person’s success
than brainpower, measured by IQ tests. He claims that IQ is not everything, that high IQ
people are not always the most successful, and that it does not determine one’s course in
life. Emotional factors could be important. He states that there are five main
“abilities” involved. A high EQ involves knowing one’s emotions. It involves managing
one’s emotions. It involves motivating oneself. It involves recognizing emotions in
others, or empathy. It involves the ability to handle relationships. Hans Eysenck in his
book A New Look Intelligence states that this whole theory is “built on quicksand” and
that there is no sound scientific basis.

Goleman insists that this is no abstract study. He is looking for solutions, which will
restore “civility to our streets and caring to our communal life.” He sees practical
applications everywhere for how companies should decide whom to hire, how couples can
increase the odds that their marriages will last, how parents should raise their children
and how schools should teach them. Obviously, something serious is lacking in our world
today. Goleman notes that street gangs substitute for families and schoolyard insults end
in violence. More than half of marriages end in divorce. The majority of the children
murdered in this country are killed by parents and stepparents, many of whom use the
excuse that they were just trying to “discipline” the child. All of these situations
clearly point to an extreme need for emotional education. Goleman argues that while
children are still young, there is a “neurological window of opportunity.” He believes
that the part of the brain, which regulates how we act on what we feel, probably does not
mature until mid-adolescence. This is why he advocates emotional learning in school as
well as academic learning.

In the corporate world, according to personnel executives, IQ gets you hired, but EQ gets
you promoted. Goleman likes to tell the story of a manager at AT&T’s Bell Labs, known for
its brilliant engineers, who was asked to rank his top performers. They weren’t the ones
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