Gender Roles 2 Essay

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Gender Roles 2


The Psychological Effects of Gender Roles
'Let the boys be boys.'; You've heard this phrase before. Often repeated by parents
regarding their little boys. So what makes a boy, a boy? Rambo like characteristics?
Muscles? Short hair? Wearing blue? Wearing T-shirts and jeans or playing with sporting
equipment? Well last I remember, the main characteristics boys shared were penises. The
role gender association play in the lives of our children can sometimes affect them
negatively. The messages that gender roles send, is that in order to be part of society,
you must fit into the norm or the status quo or most importantly what society

deems as acceptable. But all the while, trying to incorporate individuality and
establishing ones sense of self. Two conflicting ideas that can confuse a child and also
alter the way they live their lives.

There are two colors that are designated to babies that serve one purpose and one purpose
only. Most infant boys were the color blue and girls wear pink. Seeing that it is
difficult to determine the sex of an infant without general exposure to the genitals, most
parents choose to clothe they're young child in the respective colors so people will know
whether it is a boy or a girl. After all, what male infant wears pink? When the children
grow older, do they still continue the practice the color identification game? This is
wear it changes. When boys reach the age wear they start dressing themselves and start
buying their own clothes, they will continue to wear the

blues and the greens and even yellows and reds, but not pink or violet, cause those are
'girly'; colors. Girls on the other hand, when they reach the same age still continue to
wear the pink and violets and can even wear the blues, yellows, blacks, and greens. So why
can

girls make the 'cross-over'; without being teased or mocked but boys cant without being called a gay or a fagot.
The clothing issue goes farther than that. The fashion industry does make boundaries with
clothing. There is women's clothing and men's clothing. Women can wear men's clothing, and
at times its the stylish thing to do. Young girls can dress like boys or wear boys
clothing and at times will only be called a tom-boy, but that is acceptable to society.
Let's see a man in public wearing a dress, and we stop and go out of our way to break our
necks just so we can get a good look. Some even have the nerve to yell obscenities and
gossip out loud. Most people don't mock ethnic men for wearing

ethnic clothing that highly resembles dresses or skirts, so why doesn't American society
accept it with non-ethnic men that do it cause they want to. As much as fashion and
clothing affect the way our children think and act, much of that is advertised through
their

toys and the entertainment business.
When I was a young girl, my parents never bought me basketballs, baseball mitts,water
guns, GI JOE figurines (notice that I say GI JOE figurines not GI JOE dolls), or video
games. Instead I received frilly dresses, board games, water balloons, and Barbie dolls. I
know I'm not alone. Millions of girls received the same things I did and many boys
received similar gifts growing up as well. Many girls were scolded for playing with boys
toys because mommy and daddy said, 'Those toys are for boys, go play with your dolls.';
Parents just didn't want to see their 'sugar and spice and everything nice'; turn into a
tom-boy.

Have you wondered why young girls grow up and are very good with children and are often
chose as baby-sitters over boys, and ultimately become good mothers. Many say it's that
motherly instinct and the bond mothers build with their child while they are still in

the womb, but that alone, doesn't explain how they are able to take care of the baby and
care to the baby's needs. Have you ever wondered why males arrant for the most part very
good with children? It is because they weren't allowed to play with dolls. When children
are at the age of two to seven, that is the period of their lives where they will learn
the most information. That is about the age gap where many boys would like to play with
dolls but are discouraged especially by their fathers to do so. If they are allowed to
play with dolls, they learn how to care for the dolls and treat them well, and those are
the

practices females carry on into motherhood.
Surpassingly, in a class room experiment done with a doll called Baby, Think Again, which
is a computerized doll, which is programmed to cry at certain times of the day for certain
reasons, male participants were vary successful with their 'child';. The computer can tell
someone how many times the baby cried, what the'mother/father'; didn't or did do
correctly. Orland Richard's from Project Promise, a program geared towards adolescence,
said that when he comes into the classroom and tells his students that 65% of males who
impregnate their girlfriend arrant there to help with the baby after their birth and he
tells them that they have a responsibility, they try so much harder and care for their
'baby'; more intensely than some of the young women in the class because they have so much
to prove. ' They come in the next day and wait for me tom open the

computer to see if the lights are blinking, and they arrant. They even say, 'See
Mr.Richards, I can be a good father.' The funny thing is that they even come back the next
day and say, ' Hey, Mr. Richards, can I have the same baby again tonight, you know, the
one

that looks like me!' That makes me feel so good inside, and there will be one less single mother in the world.';
Why it is so hard to communicate with someone of the opposite sex? Is it really the
genetically make up, X and Y chromosomes, or is it that we really truly think differently?
We really do think differently. I know that many parents encourage little girls not to
play with the boys because they feel that type of social interaction wouldn't be
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