Intimacy Essay

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Intimacy

Intimacy


Intimacy is often defined as arising from a close acquaintance,
association, or familiarity. This definition would definitely describe the
relationship I have with my sister, Catherine. We share just about everything
that goes on in our lives and know each other like the back of our hands. We
are so close, in fact, that rarely do we hear what another is feeling before we
already know. We can tell each other's mood by the body language we are using.
I plan to give a brief summary of this relationship and the intimacy involved in
it.
There are many possible reasons why some people are attracted to each
other and form relationships. Some of these reasons are personality, physical
looks, intellectual stimulation, things in common, and differences. My sister
and I developed our relationship differently than the way you would with someone
who you just randomly meet on the street. We shared common parents, household,
schedules, and heritage. Therefore, we were naturally inclined to develop some
sort of relationship and intimacy. If we hadn't, our living conditions would
have become understandably tenuous. The development of relationships and
intimacy has some very definitive steps. The first step is initiating which is
making contact with the other person and showing that you are the kind of person
worth talking to. Our relationship was initiated as soon as I was brought into
this world and facilitated by the fact that we were brother and sister. The
next step is experimenting which is deciding whether we want to pursue a
relationship further by using small talk and the like. Since I was unable to
talk at the time, my sister and I dismissed this step. Next comes the step of
intensifying when the expression of feelings become more common. This came
quite naturally to the two of us. People were always asking my sister to show
how much she loved me which often led to hugs, kisses, hand holding, and other
common expressions of love people often demonstrate in a sibling relationship.
The next step is integrating which is when we give up characteristics of our old
selves and become different people. This has not happened to me because this
relationship has always been with me. My sister was not always a sister and
definitely changed when I became her brother. Bonding is the next step which is
when the parties make symbolic public gestures to show the world that a
relationship exists. My sister and I have always been very public about our
relationship. Next is the differentiating stage where the parties separate
somewhat. We are always going through this at this point in our relationship.
One day we can be the best of friends and the next day we can be mortal enemies.
Circumscribing comes next and is when the level of communication decreases in
quantity and quality. Again, this seems to come and go in our relationship.
The stagnating stage is when the relationship becomes overly familiar and loses
the feeling. We have not hit this. We can always find a new way to keep the
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