Looking Beyond the Sexes Essay

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Looking Beyond the Sexes



A woman gets pregnant, and her boyfriend leaves her. In Karen Horney’s “The Distrust
Between the Sexes”, she explains how a person’s psychological history causes him/her to
distrust people of the opposite sex because of certain expectations they might have.
Longings for happiness, childhood reflections, and childhood conflicts are all things that
invent these expectations.

First off, people are longing for happiness, while setting their expectations at high.
Horney states, “All of our unconscious wishes, contradictory in their nature and expanding
boundlessly on all sides, are waiting here for their fulfillment” (341). Children are
raised to believe that relationships with the opposite sex are their doorway to happiness.
Horney says, “The partner is supposed to be strong, and at the same time helpless, to
dominate us and be dominated by us, to be ascetic and to be sensuous” (341). People
expect their partners to be too many things, which will lead them to disappointment.
Horney states, “We take the magnitude of such overvaluation for the measure of our love,
while in reality it merely expresses the magnitude of our expectations” (341). Society’s
longing for happiness has so many expectations of what love should be that, in the end,
all one has is one’s expectations.

Next, childhood reflections cause a certain number of expectations that are handed down by
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