Personality and problems

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personality and problems

Problems and Personality

Aurora’s virginity has been stolen. Her brothers are expected to get revenge. This
is a major life problem. Her brothers are expected to kill for revenge. This is a solution
to this major life problem (Marquez 37). Will they kill the man who took her sisters
virginity? How the Sandoval brother’s decide to solve this problem describes who
they are. Just like how anyone’s solution to his or her problem describes who he or
she is. A major life problem is a conflict whether it is internal or external that will
impact someone’s life in a major way. This differs from an everyday conflict in that
any solution to this conflict will ultimately lead to the same end result with out
affecting anyone’s life in a major way. What one has to worry about is the tendency
for everyday conflicts to turn into major life problems.

In accordance with Nathan Amy, the way that many conflicts are turned into major life
problems is that a small everyday conflict is blown way out of proportion and turned into
a big problem (21). This could happen in many different situations. An example might be at
a home where a teenager’s dislike towards his mother’s cooking is seen as a
minor conflict. This minor conflict can easily be turned into a major life problem simply
by having the mother believe that because her son does not appreciate her cooking that he
must also not appreciate anything else that she does for him. This can then escalade and
when another minor conflict occurs between them that might just be enough for the mother
to get tiered of her ungrateful son and she might end up kicking him out of the house. Or
the teenager can get tiered of the situation and decide to leave. Now both of these two
results are major life problems.

Another example of the transformation of a small problem into a major life problem is a
person’s conflict with society. A boy that seems to be slightly deformed, comes in
daily conflict with the other children in his society, they tease him (Matute CH.4). This
of course is an ordinary conflict because most children get teased at one time or another
during their life. The only difference is that this boy blows his conflict way out of
proportion, this deformed boy takes this teasing as a major part of his life and may start
to block out other more positive things to his life. This will ultimately damage his
self-esteem and this is when the ordinary teasing becomes a major life problem. After any
conflict whether it started as a minor one and them became or has always been a major life
problem, there are several ways that they can be solved.

The ways of solving major life problem differs greatly. Violence is one of these ways;
violence could either be towards oneself or towards other people. For example killing is a
way to solve a major life problem using violence, if one feels that someone has done
something horrible to him or someone that he knows then he could opt to kill who ever did
that horrible action. Another solution is the taking of ones life, when a major problem
becomes too much to handle this may seem like the best solution (Baldwin 42).

There are also non-violent ways to resolve a problem. One of these is by either not doing
anything about the problem or something very impersonal like a court battle. This
non-violent approach to the problem is known as the passive approach. Although it is not
the most popular approach it is still used. The mentality behind this method of problem
solving is that if the problem was meant to be solved then it will solve it self, and if
the problem was not meant to be solved then it will not. We see this when a young man
who’s wife has just left him decides to do nothing but wait for her to return when
and if she is ready to return (Lorca 93).

Prayer is yet another way to solve one’s major life problems. Although this way to
solve a problem is not practiced by many because the results are not seen immediately most
of the time. This causes people to get frustrated and that is the reason why people opt
for other kinds of problem solving. Yet when prayer is used for problem solving it usually
has the best results. This is may or may not be due to some miraculous intervention but it
is mostly a way to make people relax. Relaxation leads to meditation that leads into
thinking of other better ways of solving the problem. An example of this is when some one
dies, people pray which brings closure and relaxation to the family members that are in
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