Psychological Insights into Parenting Styles Essay

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Psychological Insights into Parenting Styles

Would you have come out different if your parents used a different parenting style? If you
are considered "cool" now could you have come out a nerd if your parents would have used a
different parenting style? "Parenting style is one of the primary determinants of your
child's outcome whether he succeeds, achieves, meets the challenges, flounders, gives up,
or runs from or fails in handling life." (6) The purpose of this paper is to describe the
outcomes, processes, labor, and techniques of parenting in a psychological point of view.
Parenting styles are defined as the "manner in which parents express their beliefs on how
to be a good or bad parent." (4) Each parenting style has its weaknesses and strengths.
All parents incorporate love and limit in their style of parenting. There are four
different types of parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, democratic, and uninvolved
parents.

The first type of parenting style is called authoritarian. In this parenting style the
parents are the boss. They make strict rules and they enforce them. They focus more on
restrictions than a loving relationship with their child. They believe it is their job as
parents to catch their children being bad and punish them. These parents use external
control on their children instead of taking time to tell the kid what they did wrong and
why they should not do it again. Something these parents do not realize is that they do
not catch their kids being good. Authoritarian parents are firm and unsympathetic.
Authoritarian parents love to use discipline.

An example can be if Timmy decides he wants to go to a party on Friday. His parents tell
him he has to be back by 9:00 pm. He gets angry and decides to come back home at 11:00 pm.
When he gets home his parents punish him by beating him with a stick. They do not explain
to him why they are hitting him or they do not take the time to ask why he has arrived
home late. As a result to this form of discipline the children usually react quickly and
do not make an attempt to negotiate with their parents in fear that they will receive more
discipline. The outcome of this type of parenting style is that the child usually becomes
unfriendly, anxious, distrusted, and withdrawn. Most of them also have a low self-esteem.
A positive outcome is that the child becomes academically successful because the parents
are so demanding.

A great example of a permissive parent is how Mrs. Star treats her 8th period class.
Permissive parents allow complete freedom to their children and there is very little
discipline visible. Permissive parenting was "Popular in the 1950's and 1960's" because of
all the troubles going on during WWII. (5) They like to tell their kids "One more timeā€¦"
whenever the kids do something bad. An example can be if Timmy asks his parents if he can
go to a party. They tell him he has to be home by 10pm. Then his parents tell him the
limit is 10pm. Then he suggests 12pm and because they do not want Timmy to be angry with
them they let him do whatever he wants. Permissive parents have a fear that their kids
will not like them. Unlike authoritarian parents, permissive parents make rules but they
never enforce the rules. The children in this parenting style are usually immature,
dependant, aggressive, and unhappy. They do not do well academically because of their
inability to regulate to the school rules.

Now we come to the democratic parenting style. This is the best parenting style when it
comes to raising a child in a healthy environment. Democratic parents make rules but they
are flexible with their rules depending on the different situations. Democratic parents
also have more open and honest relationships with their children. They allow their
children more of a chance to take responsibility and learn from their mistakes.

One thing you should remember when you are raising a child is that your child should not
be afraid of you. When your children do something that you do not believe is right, talk
with them firmly, but at the same time try to understand what they are saying. Timmy once
again is going to a party but his parents tell him he has to be home by 10pm. Timmy
suggests that he should come home at 11 pm. His parents try to please him but come close
to their original plan by letting him come home at 10:30. Lets say if Timmy comes home at
12am.

Authoritarian parents will not only depend on discipline. They will explain to the child
what he has done wrong, and then they will give the child a reasonable punishment. This is
the hardest of the parenting styles because you have to spend more time on your child.
Unlike just taking the easy way and letting do whatever they want like permissive parents
or punishing them for everything they do without even explaining why you are punishing
them. Children of democratic parents usually come out to be "friendly, self-reliant, and
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