What is Abuse?

Abuse is not just being hit. Abuse is any action that is harmful or controlling and that affects the well being of another person. Many people use the term “Abuse” to signify physical abuse, but there are many more ways of abusing someone than beating them. Physical abuse is the most horrifying and most noticeable of them all, but it is only one of the many types of abuse. Here are some of the names for different categories of abuse: Physical abuse, Sexual abuse, Psychological and Verbal abuse, Forced confinement, abuse towards pets or property, Financial abuse, and Child abuse. The two abuses that I will be focusing on will be physical and mental abuse.
I decided to pick the topic of abuse after viewing the movie The Yellow Wall- paper. After watching the movie and seeing how badly Mary Wollstonecraft was treated, it made me want to know more about abuse on women and what could be done to break the chain of abuse. I believe that no abuse is acceptable and that any man that has ever abused a woman in anyway should face major consequences. That is my main point to this paper, that the laws are not strong enough and that more effort should be done so that no women is ever abused in anyway shape or form again.
To start, I will give some statistics about police and how they handle calls from wives that have been abused. “Police were more likely to respond within five minutes if the offender was a stranger than if an offender was known to the female victim”

(“Response”1). Also, it has been recorded that once a women in Boston called in that her husband had beaten her and the policeman’s response was, “Listen, lady, he pays the bills, doesn’t he? What he does inside of his house is his business”(Straus, Gelles, and Steinmetz 301). With a response like this, why even bother calling the police. That is why we must come together and start over from the inside out. We need to make every one in any position of power know that any abuse on women is wrong. The truth is that, “90% of all family violence defendants are never prosecuted, and one-third of the cases that would be considered felonies if committed by strangers are filed as misdemeanors (a lesser crime)” (“Response”1). Why is that? Why is it that, “Every 15 seconds a woman in this country is beaten by her current or former husband or intimate partner” (“Statistics”1). Why is it that, “According to FBI statistics, 30% of female murder victims in 1990 […] were killed by their husbands or boyfriends” (“Women Killed”1). Also that, “20% of all emergency room visits by women are result of domestic violence and 75% of these women will have additional injuries requiring treatment within the year”(“Statistics”1). Why can’t we protect women whom are 50 percent of the population. Why is it, “There are 1,500 shelters for women in the United States. There are 3,800 animal shelters” (“Statistics”1).
After reading this information one can easily see that we must start by looking out for our selves, because there is not much help out there. Not to say that women should not try to press charges against there offender but that they should not put their future and lives in the hands of some one else. I hear stories all the time about ex-husbands or old boyfriends whom they have a restraining order against, go right through the restraining

order and put the women into an intensive care unit or kill them. I have even experienced it first hand. A former tenant of mine was shot and killed by her ex-husband after he got out of jail. The court thought that it was not necessary to inform the ex-wife that he was out of jail. He then got a gun, got her new address through the court system, and shot her dead in her car with their two small boys in the back seat. Another women I knew was beaten to death by a sledgehammer, (hit fifteen times in the face) in her own front yard by her former boyfriend. He had gotten out of jail just earlier that week. Her parents are now raising her