EQ vs IQ



EQ Versus IQ
You are four years old and are seated by yourself at the kitchen table. Your mom places one piece of your favorite candy in front of you. She explains that you can eat it right now, but if you wait while she leaves the room to do a quick chore, you can have two pieces of candy when she returns. She leaves the room. What do you do? Do you grab the gooey goody the minute she’s out the door? Or do you patiently sit there resisting temptation hoping to double your treat upon her return? Do you know that your our reaction to this situation may very well determine the degree of your success in life? A similar study with children was actually conducted by a psychologist using marshmallows. The study showed that children who had the ability to restrain themselves and reap the reward of a second treat generally grew up to be better adjusted, more popular, adventurous, confident and dependable teenagers. The children who gave in to temptation early on were more likely to be lonely, easily frustrated, stubborn, and less likely to properly handle stress. While most people tend to think a high IQ, or intelligence quotient, determines the course of one’s life, new brain research suggests that one’s emotional quotient, or EQ, may be the true measure of human intelligence.
Unlike IQ, which is gauged by the famous Stanford-Binet tests, EQ is not measurable in the same way. A person’s IQ reveals the cold, factual side of the brain, whereas the EQ refers to one’s “people skills.” Emotional intelligence is a complex quality consisting of such things as self-awareness, empathy, persistence and social skills. Some aspects of emotional intelligence, however, can be determined. Optimism, for example, is a good indicator of a person’s self-worth. According to Martin Seligman, a University of Pennsylvania psychologist, how people respond to setbacks--optimistically or pessimistically--is a fairly accurate indicator of how well they will succeed in school, in sports, and in certain kinds of work. His theory is proven by 1988 Olympic Gold Medallist Matt Biondi. Before the Olympic Games, this U.S. swimmer was favored to win seven Golds. His first two races proved to be disappointing and commentators thought Biondi would be unable to recover from this setback. Seligman disagreed. He had given some members of the U.S. swim team a version of his optimism test before the races; it showed that Biondi had an extremely positive attitude. Instead of becoming discouraged, as others might have, Biondi bounced right back by swimming even faster, winning five gold medals in the next five races.
When one thinks of brilliant people, Einstein and other such high achievers come to mind. One assumes that they were “wired” for greatness from birth. But then, one might wonder why, over time, natural talent seems to explode in some people yet fizzle out in others. This is where the marshmallows come in. Could your decision be determined by an IQ test? No. It seems that the ability to delay gratification is a master skill, a triumph of the intellectual brain over the impulsive one. It is a sign of emotional intelligence but it does not show up on an IQ test. Nancy Gibbs in her article “The EQ Factor” for Time Magazine states:
For most of this century, scientists have worshipped the hardware of the brain and
the software of the mind; the messy powers of the heart were left to the poets.
But cognitive theory could simply not explain the questions we wonder about
most: why some people just seem to have a gift for living well; why the
smartest kid in the class will probably not end up the richest; why we like
some people virtually on sight and distrust others; why some people remain
buoyant in the face of troubles that would sink a less resilient soul. What qualities
of the mind or spirit, in short, determine who succeeds?
The phrase “emotional intelligence” was created by a Yale psychologist and a professor at University of New Hampshire five years ago to describe qualities like understanding one’s own feelings, empathy for the feelings of others and “the regulation of emotion in a way that enhances living.” Their idea is becoming a topic of conversation nationally due to a