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How Does Your Child Act?

First of all I think that in the back of every parents mind are questions concerning
their child’s future. Like will it be a doctor, a lawyer, or the next president of the United
States. But with these questions there are also more questions that are not discussed
freely like what if it is a bad child or it is uncontrollable? And will it do drugs or try
alcohol and smoke cigarettes? Another question that might be in the back of a parents
mind is about its child’s sexual orientation. I know this may seem far fetched to some
people but if I had a child right now in todays world, that question would not be in the
back of my mind but in the front. I know that any parent and including me will love their
child no matter what it’s sexual orientation, but I know that most if not all parents would
prefer that their kids be straight. This is not so they won’t be embarrass or ashamed by
their child, but only for the protection of their child. As we all know this world is not a
safe place for people that are different. I think that parents are concerned when their girl
acts like a tomboy, but they get really scared when their son starts doing what we
traditionally consider girl stuff. A child should be raised to be whomever he or she
chooses and the child shouldn’t have to accept society, but society should accept the child
for who they are.
A parents reaction to their daughter acting like a tomboy is very passive and they
play it off humorously and sometimes they even encourage it. This doesn’t apply to some
parents but most parents react this way when their daughter acts like a boy and does boy
stuff. I used to know a girl that was a tomboy. She always hung around with boys even
in middle school. She had al guy friends and would play boys games. Not once did I ever
hear her parents say anything to make her stop acting like a tomboy, instead they
encouraged. For instance they used to take all her friends, we were all boys to baseball
games and hockey games. There was never another girl there except for herself. And I
guess she felt comfortable hanging around with boys and her parents didn’t mind as long
as she was happy, because that was really what mattered. On the other hand there was my
neighbors son. This boy was the total opposite of the girl. He never played with boys but
he was always around girls. He was always teased by the other boys including me, but we
were all young back then. But looking back at this, it’s weird to notice that we always
made fun of the boy who acted like a girl but never did I hear anyone make fun of the girl.
I think that the boys parents were more upset about the little boys playmates than anyone
else. The boys father, my neighbor used to push the boy into doing boy stuff like playing
little league baseball and pop warner football. Whenever the father saw us boys playing
football or basketball on the street, he would literally drag the boy out of the house to
make him play with us. The little boy would be in tears crying but you could still hear his
father encouraging him to play. We all knew that the boy was scared straight by his father
and dared not to disobey his father, but he didn’t want to play. Even the boys mother was
like his father. If other girls came to play with the boy, she would not let him out. So
then a couple of boys used to go and get him out of his house, which his mom agreed to
so he could secretly play with the other girls. Looking back at this makes me think that
those actions by both the girl and the boy didn’t really mean anything because we were
only nine or ten years old.
There are a lot of reasons to why there is a double standard for girls acting like
boys and boys acting like girls. The boys get the hard rough end of the stick. Everyone is
okay with girls acting like tomboys but as soon as a boy acts like a girl, he is considered
to be gay,